I Was So Tempted to Have a Fling……
Taken from a local forum:
it took me alot of courage to post this thread….think it shud be safe cos i dunno any1 from here
i’m a very faithful n loyal gf… all my bgrs are long lasting. my 1st relationship lasted 5 yrs. ended when he went army and decided to flirt around. my 2nd bf lasted 2 yrs. was very abusive n flirtatious til i couldnt take it… my 3rd bf 2 years and still counting….
i’m very romantic, alwaz surprising my other half with gifts and small handmade stuff. i supposed i belong to e xiao nu ren category… all my frenz say i live for love… quite true for my case… my time is totally devoted to my bf… i am sociable with many guy frenz but i noe my limits. all my bfs were v poor… for ur info, i’m in my early twenties but i neva eva depend on bf.. i drive my own car, buy my own clothes n bags and pay my own meals.
my colleagues say i’m a fairly low maintenance kind of gf..
thus my ex all take me for granted. lots of times i ended up paying for their clothes, movies, their meals…i alwaz believed in a fairy type of romance… but i fear i have lost myself as i grow older…
i used to think love is enough, no bread neva mind…but now, i no longer think so… i feel upset it’s alwaz me having to fork out for dates, when anniversary he cant even afford to bring me out for meal or buy flowers… i mind when i’m e 1 alwaz fetching him home, driving him to work…
my mind (and eye) now keep wandering to other guys… i’m afraid… i have alwaz prided myself on being a very faithful gf… i’m afraid i’m becoming materialistic… but another part of me feels, as we grow older, our needs are different, e pple we come into contact with, are different…
i post here as my frenz dun understand my prob… they think is very simple, juz break up if i’m so unhappy…. but i juz cant do it…
i dunno how to explain… i very easily soft hearted, e moment a guy cry i cant stand it.. i feel so troubled… i got to noe a guy recently who drives, pay for dates (yes i went out secretly few times with him and got hell from my bf who found out)…..
i ask myself honestly… is it cos he drive so i like him?? my ans is no… i think wat i wanted was e feeling of being treated like a princess… for once, being driven instead of driving e guy, for once e guy plan e date instead of me, for once being surprised with gifts instead of me making efforts….
well to get down to e pt, i was very tempted to have a fling….i noe it’s so wrong and a betrayal but i’m juz getting more n more miserable…
Anyone wanna help this troubled lady? Offer your genuine opinions? Or offer to be her fling?
July 5th, 2008 at 11:00 am
first of all, is your choice of bf the toy boy type? handsome and lazy….cant imagine you sticking with a normal poor guy who sponge off you. These guys are the equivalent of those china girls…..remember many guys stay handsome even to their 40s..so they can and will flirt up to that age.
July 10th, 2008 at 2:30 pm
I guessed at the end of the day, it still matter what type of guys you are looking for in terms of a life-time partner. From your post, I can only say that sub-consciously, you still wish to be looked after and be pampered, and so far all the guys that you have been with are unable to provide you with that requirement.
No doubt you wouldn’t mind being a ‘xiao nu ren’, but how far can you go? If this isn’t your true personality, then why stay to it just for the sake of a relationship? Go for what you are looking for and fight for it. Instead of a fling, why not make it a clean break?