Mother-In-Law, No 1 Cause Of Divorce In Malaysia
Mother-in-law, monster-in-law. If you have a nice MIL, it is a blessing to you……
KUALA LUMPUR: Every married person knows it, but a local study has confirmed it – mothers-in-law are the chief cause of divorces, especially in the Indian community.
Data in the Malaysia Community and Family Study 2004 by the National Population and Family Development Board (LPPKN) revealed that “meddlesome in-laws” is the number one reason why Indian couples get divorced.
It is also among the top three factors for divorce among the Malays and Chinese. The other two factors are incompatibility (42.3%) and infidelity (12%).
“Interference by in-laws is the main reason for Indians to divorce. It is the top-ranked reason at 30%,” said LPPKN director-general Datuk Aminah Abdul Rahman when presenting a paper on Malaysia’s family profile and its effects at Institut Kefahaman Islam Malaysia yesterday.
I’m not sure how we could get THE MOTHER-IN-LAW’S MANUAL to begin circulating among MILs in Malaysia…but I suspect it would help. The message to mothers is, “Ladies, we have a new job, and it is different than our old job. It is no longer our role to tell our children what to do. If we did a good job of raising them, they and their partners can figure it out for themselves. If we didn’t it is too late.”
It’s awkward for me to toot my own horn, but I know from the feedback I’m getting that reading this has helped families. Try the website to see the first chapter and a video. S.A.L.
Susan,
I hope that helps.